Permission to Embrace a New Facet of You

Permission to Embrace a New Facet of You

I have always loved Halloween and the excuse to dress up in a costume. This photo is from a party earlier this month with the theme of Glam Rock. This idea of dressing in costume and trying on a new character is related to my work in the intimacy and relationship field in multiple ways. The most obvious is role-playing…

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Sexual Role Play – Two Suggestions for Overcoming Difficulties

Sexual Role Play – Two Suggestions for Overcoming Difficulties

“We want to try role-playing to spice up our sex life, but I think I’ll just laugh the whole time and feel silly.” “We’ve tried sexual role-playing but my partner kept getting caught up in the details and getting distracted.” Sexual role-playing is a way to bring a new energy of creativity and spontaneity to your sex life. You give yourself and your partner permission to try on a new skin and “be” someone else…

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A Dad's Letter to his 18-Year-Old Son

A Dad's Letter to his 18-Year-Old Son

With 2022 high school graduations upon us, I wanted to share a letter that my friend Clint August wrote to his son recently, when his son turned 18 years old. Clint is my co-host on our Sex Talk with Clint & the Doc podcast, and a well-known San Diego on-air radio personality. I’m happy I get to call him a friend, and his dedication to his role as a father comes through with an abundance of love in this letter.

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Creative Brain Podcast on Sexual Shame, Mindful Sex, & New Ways to Communicate

Creative Brain Podcast on Sexual Shame, Mindful Sex, & New Ways to Communicate

Haley is a former student and intern of mine, and it was a delight when she and her co-host Rachel interviewed me for their The Creative Brain Podcast! We dove into a lot of the topics in my book and specifically how much sexual expression, reducing sexual shame, and intimate communication skills are needed for Southern women in the Bible Belt.

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Mormon Sex...and Consent

Mormon Sex...and Consent

Mormon sex! A topic that's not often discussed publicly, but I was happy to be interviewed for a 2nd time by a Mormon Sex Therapist. We discussed my sexual consent video, and in her words: "Dr. Gunsaullus offers us a rare and vulnerable look into the complexities of consent. Not the type of consent that is obvious (i.e. don't rape a woman when she is unconscious or inebriated), but..."

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Why Courage is Needed to Share Sex Consent Violations

Why Courage is Needed to Share Sex Consent Violations

Folklorist, feminist, and sex educator, Dr. Jeana Jorgensen, reflected and blogged about my personal storytelling video about a sexual consent violation I experienced recently with a man. It means a lot to me to feel like the feminist community is behind me in my personal sharing and in my compassionate and reflective approach to this difficult topic! I also share some negative comments I've received...

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