Sex. Drinking. College. These three things often go together in the college scene when it comes to hooking up, and if we were to believe headlines, we'd think that this was a new trend that was undermining our youth. I spoke about hooking up to 1000 sorority women at Syracuse University recently and addressed whether this is actually a new trend (mostly no). I then delved into the big topics around it, including whether it's emotionally or physically risky for young women (can be), it means the woman is a slut (no), and whether it's liberating (yes and no).
But the discussion was just getting started, because I challenged the audience to consider that we're asking the wrong questions. While these three components are important, we're missing the mark when it comes to getting to the heart of sexual satisfaction, consent, connection, respect, sexual meaning, and empowerment. Using examples from my private practice, I taught the young women a basic tool for mindfulness, to assist them in pulling back the layers and finding what is authentic about their sexual expression.
One of the students in the audience wrote about my talk in the Daily Orange, the Syracuse University student newspaper. While I think she took some creative license with her recounting of my lecture, she does capture some of the major points quite well and offers a deeper understanding of my approach to the topic of college women and hookup culture.
~Dr. Jenn Gunsaullus, San Diego Sexologist, Sexuality Speaker, & Sociologist