--> Do you pay attention to whether women or men are wearing a wedding band?
--> If you are not married and wearing one yourself, does that upset you and make you feel unloved or left out?
--> Do you think that single women in business are treated with less respect than married women?

I hadn't put much thought into these questions until a couple of female friends began taking these questions seriously. AND, they began their own social experiment called The Ring Thing!

The concept here is for women who are unmarried to engage themselves. The fabulous women who run the website for this social experiment state, "The Ring Thing asks that you Engage Yourself and commit to a 90-day social experiment of wearing a Ring on THAT finger without exception and without apology....It ENGAGES our own love of self, commitment to self and appreciation of self....Women are told and trained to care for others first: their husbands, their families, their children. When we publicly choose to commit to SELF FIRST, we acknowledge our own personal value and worthiness."

The website mentions that initial reactions included:
Are you trying to attract marriage?
You’re lying.
You’re only going to attract men who like married women.
I want one.
I have to say that my initial reaction was questioning why they would want to misrepresent themselves (i.e., lie) and what to say if someone questions them on being married. As well, I wondered how it it would impact their dating chances, if they were out and about in a social setting. I have not taken on this social experiment, as it would feel inauthentic in my business and life built on truth, openness, and authenticity. However, I love the motivation behind The Ring Thing as well as the commitment to building women's self-esteem and personal growth. Check it out for yourself and see what you think!

Jennifer Gunsaullus, Ph.D.

Relationship & Intimacy Doctor
Sex, Love, & Passion in San Diego
www.drjennsden.com