I have my Smart Balls in as I'm writing this...
Are you familiar with the modern technological advances in the concept of Ben Wa Balls? The erotic product market welcomed Fun Factory's Smart Balls last summer and last week I decided I would start "wearing" them every few days as I move through the world.

Smart Balls are inserted in the vagina. There is a small weighted ball inside each of the two connected larger balls (see photo below); the hidden balls create a gentle movement intended to passively strengthen vaginal and pelvic floor muscles. Stronger pelvic floor muscles means greater enjoyment of orgasms, recovery from childbirth, and less urinary incontinence. I'm very impressed with Fun Factory's quality and design, and the high-grade silicone material means that they are not porous (so no place for bacteria to linger).

I've worn them three days within the last week. I find that I laugh even more than usual when I have them in, because I'm surprised by the unexpected movement of the inner balls as I move, and amused by my secret!

I wore them to an all-day "Wigs & Mustaches" Birthday Pub Crawl this past Saturday. Talk about Smart Balls in action! Riding my bike, walking to 6 different bars, drinking, and dancing around...for 8 hours. Unfortunately the more I drank, the less aware I was of them, probably because of the overall sensation-numbing effect of alcohol. On the other hand, the more I drank, the more I wanted to talk about them! I joked that I would have "packed" my Vag Flask, but the Smart Balls didn't leave enough room.

Check out the link below if you want to try them out for yourself. Stay tuned for more Adventures in Smart Balls...

Jennifer Gunsaullus, Ph.D.

Relationship & Intimacy Doctor
Serving Women & Couples in San Diego
www.drjennsden.com

As some of you know, I had the pleasure of working with author and sex therapist Gina Ogden this past February, as well as enjoyed a Den interview with her a few months ago.

Gina Ogden has written a fabulous new book “The Return of Desire" that is officially released today! In this book she suggests wise and lively approaches for overcoming roadblocks to intimacy, and encourages women to expand your capacity for love, creativity, compassion, and sacred union. Like Gina's previous books, The Return of Desire is down-to-earth, easy to read, and engaging.

She's also offering five FREE gifts with the purchase of this book:
1) An inspirational poster
2) A meditation on attracting the sex you want
3) A guide to the secrets of meaningful sex
4) An amazing song titled "The Return of Desire"
5) A chance to win a free personal consultation with Gina.

The Return of Desire is much more than just a sex book—it is illuminating guidance for transforming our whole lives—body, heart, mind, and spirit.

To see the book and receive these special gifts CLICK HERE.

Jennifer Gunsaullus, Ph.D.

Relationship & Intimacy Doctor
Serving Women & Couples in San Diego
www.drjennsden.com

--> Do you pay attention to whether women or men are wearing a wedding band?
--> If you are not married and wearing one yourself, does that upset you and make you feel unloved or left out?
--> Do you think that single women in business are treated with less respect than married women?

I hadn't put much thought into these questions until a couple of female friends began taking these questions seriously. AND, they began their own social experiment called The Ring Thing!

The concept here is for women who are unmarried to engage themselves. The fabulous women who run the website for this social experiment state, "The Ring Thing asks that you Engage Yourself and commit to a 90-day social experiment of wearing a Ring on THAT finger without exception and without apology....It ENGAGES our own love of self, commitment to self and appreciation of self....Women are told and trained to care for others first: their husbands, their families, their children. When we publicly choose to commit to SELF FIRST, we acknowledge our own personal value and worthiness."

The website mentions that initial reactions included:
Are you trying to attract marriage?
You’re lying.
You’re only going to attract men who like married women.
I want one.
I have to say that my initial reaction was questioning why they would want to misrepresent themselves (i.e., lie) and what to say if someone questions them on being married. As well, I wondered how it it would impact their dating chances, if they were out and about in a social setting. I have not taken on this social experiment, as it would feel inauthentic in my business and life built on truth, openness, and authenticity. However, I love the motivation behind The Ring Thing as well as the commitment to building women's self-esteem and personal growth. Check it out for yourself and see what you think!

Jennifer Gunsaullus, Ph.D.

Relationship & Intimacy Doctor
Sex, Love, & Passion in San Diego
www.drjennsden.com