Sexual Advocates in San Diego

San Diego SexologistWhen you think of progressive values, topics like menstruation, HIV justice, and sexual rights might not be the first words to cross your mind. But as a fellow in this year’s San Diego Leadership Alliance (SDLA) Institute class (to train progressive leaders), who is passionate about bringing a voice to taboo sex topics, I was thrilled to find other like-minded activists in my class, namely Shawna Held and Nate Cedilla. We quickly bonded over the importance of sex education and nonjudgmental sexual discussions.

Shawna Held advocates for "menstrual activism," and explains that her intent is to "create a safe space for people who menstruate and do everything I can to take the taboo and shame around it away." I had never even thought about actual activism around menstruation, and love this title. I think it's mind-boggling that something as natural as menstruation is still shrouded in silence and embarassment, especially for young women.

Nate Cedilla is an activist for “HIV justice." He states that in “my formative years as a queer man of color, I struggled to understand my sexuality and learn the significance of independence,” which included engaging in unprotected sexual activities and partying. I've been involved with HIV both as a researcher and educator, and my dissertation was about HIV prevention programs targeting adult women in racial minority communities. I so appreciate the work that Nate does to bring compassion and education to reducing HIV in San Diego.

I promote “sexual health & rights” because sex and sexuality are a natural part of our human experience, yet so much around them remains in the shadows, which leads to miscommunication, fear, exploitation, pain, and sadness. A theme behind the work that the three of us do, which has been clarified and emboldened through our participation in SDLA, is to bring a loud voice to topics and experiences that many wish would stay silenced. Our goal is to reduce shame, stigma, and fear, and increase knowledge, empowerment, and connection. Sex- and body-related topics are relevant to everyone.

We thank the folks at SDLA for warmly accepting our unconventional passions! Look for the three of us at the Happy to be progressive Hour fundraiser this Wednesday, May 14, 2014…we promise to share some lively and fascinating stories with you!

~Dr. Jenn Gunsaullus San Diego, CA -- Sociologist, Sexologist, Sexuality Speaker

Getting Your Sexual Mojo Back

San Diego Sexologist

My first time live in a radio station! These radio hosts were awesome to talk to about mojo, sex, relationships, communication, and my experiences. My piece starts around 1:06:40.

HAPPY Hour San Diego 04.24.2014 Singer Song Writer Steph Johnson, Sexual Expert Dr. Jenn Gunsallus by Rich Singley on Mixcloud

~Dr. Jenn Gunsaullus -- San Diego, CA, Sexologist, Sociologist, Sexuality Speaker

Why Progressive Values Mean Happier Sex

pro·gres·sive: (of a group, person, or idea) favoring or implementing social reform or new, liberal ideas.

I'm a 2014 Institute Fellow in the San Diego Leadership Alliance. This is a nonprofit organization dedicated to progressive values and causes in San Diego and cultivating new progressive leaders. It's an amazing program and bridges my interests in sexual health education, women's reproductive rights, sexual rights, LGBT rights, holistic health, and overall community health, into the realm of politics, public policy, and advocacy.

What happens if we don't favor social reform in the sexual realm? We live from and in fear. Our government has the right to control our bodies. People are denied the right to love who they want and have (consensual) sex in the way they want, without shame. Sex is a powerful force. We can respect and honor that this means responsibilitiy and aware choices. We can also respect and honor that this means tolerance that each person's experience and expression of the power of sex may be different. Fear, shame, embarrassment, and control brings everyone down in their sexual experiences. This seems to be the American way. What a shame.

If you're in the San Diego area and would like to support progressive values in our city, please come out to the fundraising Happy Hour on Wednesday, May 14, to support the 2015 Class of the San Diego Leadership Alliance. Purchase tickets HERE.

~Dr. Jenn Gunsaullus -- San Diego Sexologist, Sociologist, Sexuality Speaker

Couples Workshops in San Diego

Being in a relationship is a wonderful experience AND it takes awareness, communication, and work to stay on track. I'm offering weekend workshops for couples to improve their communication and get them back on the same page in their commitment to the things that matter.

Benefits of Attending:

  • Improve communication skills
  • Learn to cultivate mindfulness techniques
  • Increase play and creativity in your relationship
  • Learn to speak each other's love language
  • Focus on appreciation and acknowledgements
  • Deepen intimacy
  • Learn to focus on sensual enjoyment
  • Learn how to check-in with what's most important

Next Weekend Couples Workshop:

April 4-6, 2014

Friday night: 6-9pm
Saturday: Specific activities on your own (as determined Friday night)
Sunday: 1-5pm

For more information, visit this page for Weekend Couples Workshops in San Diego.

~Dr. Jenn Gunsaullus, San Diego Sociologist, Sexuality Speaker, Intimacy Counselor

Conscious Dating in San Diego

What is conscious dating? Hopefully we already want to be awake for our dates, so this is a different type of consciousness. By conscious dating, I mean being aware, vulnerable, authentic, and compassionate. When you think about all the game-playing and uncertainty around dating, you can already tell how different this approach it.

On Friday, February 28, I'll be speaking about Conscious Dating as part of the Pacific College of Oriential Medicine's (PCOM) monthly Pop!TALK series. Although you're welcome to sit back, listen, and soak it in, I'm looking forward to audience interaction so we can all partake in furthering this important conversation.

Tickets are only $5 in advance and PCOM is located in the Mission Valley area of San Diego. Email poptalk@pacificcollege.edu to reserve your $5 ticket, or pay $10 at the door. Doors open 6:30pm. See you there!

~Dr. Jenn Gunsaullus, San Diego Sexologist, Sexuality Speaker, Sociologist