What do people usually think of, when they hear "hotter sex"? Adding new exciting things to their sex life, like new positions, lingerie, role playing, or anything that seems "crazy" and hot. But this approach isn't necessarily helpful or sustainable. Why? Because these are often just band aids and aren't usually sustainable and this approach is only half the picture.
In long-term relationships, in particular, we need to also be doing and talking about what puts your sexual brake on and why. Desire and arousal are a process of balancing what turns us on and how, and also how to turn off what blocks our sexual desire and arousal. There's no right or wrong way to do this, and a broad range of turn-ons and turn-offs are totally normal.
But we need to be reflecting on this for ourselves, and discussing this with our partners. I delve into this topic with Clint August on San Diego Living morning news! Click on either photo above to watch the interview.