Dr. Jenn Gunsaullus, sociologist and sexologist, writes her sex advice and gender commentary blog. The sex blog includes relationship advice, free sex education videos, sex tips, sex-positive mindfulness, and podcast interviews.
Why are women treated differently in media coverage regarding relationships and break-ups? I gave my two cents as a sociologist to a reporter at USA Today for this piece…
Read MoreWanna be a good lover? There are a lot of misconceptions around what it means to be good at sex...and perhaps some surprises around what it really takes. The lovely and funny Trudi of It's the TruStory interviewed me to dispel some myths about how you can be good at sex!
Read MoreI am so happy to be hosting this event on September 23, 2016, in San Diego! This is a really impressive documentary (and funny!) around a natural topic that is continually shamed and stigmatized. Plus, I'm really proud to say that I am one of the sex experts interviewed in the film.
Read MoreSelf-love can be a tough topic for women. From childhood to now, you may have heard messages that you're not good enough, you're not pretty enough, you're not smart enough, you're too loud...I'm happy to announce that I'm one of the more than 21 experts in a Women Learning to Love video summit that launched today...
Read MoreThere are many ways to sexually please a woman. And all women are different. Nonetheless, when the sex editor at Men's Health Magazine came to me and asked for my top tips for pleasing a woman, I offered a few suggestions that I hoped their male readers would add to their sexual tool belts.
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From: http://www.salon.com/2012/01/04/the_sexual_resolution/It’s a few weeks into the new year – have your resolutions already fallen by the wayside? Did you swear off fatty foods, cigarettes, and excessive drinking, or commit yourself to lose weight, eat healthier, and keep a budget, only to find yourself slipping into old habits? These are all worthy intentions for the new year, but I think a different approach, especially when applied to improving sex and relationships, can keep you on track this whole year long.
Choose one relationship or sexual improvement goal this year, and continually work towards developing that. For example, do you and your partner struggle when it comes to communication? If so, each month create a small plan about how you’re going to work on that. Perhaps you could start in January with each writing a list of your needs, irritations, and resentments and kindly discuss them with each other. Then in February you can each choose two needs and present a plan on how they could be better met in your relationship. Each month you can add on a new component or communication mode. There’s no right or wrong way to do this; just keep plugging along.
Of if your goal for the year is to learn more about your sexual pleasure, desire, and arousal, choose a different aspect of this to explore each month. You could start with reading through Amazon reviews on books about sexual pleasure, and find one that piques your interest. Next month you could take a class, have a vulnerable conversation with a friend, purchase a new sexual toy, try a lubricant, etc. Anything that builds towards your big picture goal of sexual pleasure knowledge.
One of the most important ways to stay true to your new year’s goals is to have a plan and review it regularly for sustainability and accountability. Set your phone alarm for every Sunday evening as a reminder to review your intention and reflect on whether you’ve taken steps towards or away from that. Then write down ideas for that week of how you’re going to take a step in the right direction. Intentions are a work in progress, so continue to identify what works and what doesn’t for you, and apply that feedback to create success.
~Dr. Jenn Gunsaullus, San Diego, CA -- Sociologist, Sex Coach, Sexuality Speaker, Sexologist
Dr. Jenn is a sociologist and relationship & sexuality speaker who challenges our cultural beliefs around sex, sexual consent, gender roles, and health intimacy, with a mindfulness and compassionate approach. Her site includes a sex blog, free sex education videos, sexuality speaking information, and mindfulness resources.
