What Beach Volleyball Teaches Me about Love

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What Beach Volleyball Teaches Me about Love

The sand was just warming under my feet last Saturday morning, the ocean breeze cutting across the beach as I walked toward my usual court. I’ve played beach volleyball with the same group (mostly men, a few women) for more than fifteen years. We only play two-on-two (no fours or sixes), and it’s one of my favorite parts of the week. Frustratingly, my skill level changes from week to week, and it took me years to realize that when I focus on just two things—especially when a serve is coming in—everything flows better. Those two things are…

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60 Questions to Strengthen Your Relationship or Marriage

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60 Questions to Strengthen Your Relationship or Marriage

How often do you create intentional time to ask and answer questions like this in your relationship or marriage? (It really only needs to take 5 to 10 minutes!) What's a favorite memory of us that I may not know means a lot to you? What's something I do that makes you feel loved? What helps you feel more emotionally safe with me?

I love using questions like this when…

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Uncomfortable Holiday Conversations with Family & Friends

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Uncomfortable Holiday Conversations with Family & Friends

Do you know how to be with family and friends for the holidays, and also be prepared for uncomfortable or confrontational social or political conversations? I spoke to Houston NBC news recently, giving advice on how best to navigate holiday conversations.

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How Your Attachment Style Impacts Sex

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How Your Attachment Style Impacts Sex

Our attachment styles indicate how secure, anxious, or avoidant we feel around emotional intimacy in our relationships. This aspect of emotional intimacy and trust around closeness and vulnerability can’t help but impact how we experience sexual connection. Some folks at Kourtney Kardashian’s lifestyle magazine Poosh reached out to interview me….

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The RIGHT Buttons to Push in Your Marriage

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The RIGHT Buttons to Push in Your Marriage

I was just in Lyon, France, and one of Lyon’s points of pride is the vital role it played in the resistance movement against the Nazis in WWII. And one of the tools used by the resistance fighters were the Traboules—secret passageways through the winding streets, originally built for the silk workers in the 1500s...

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Can We Please Stop Using the Chat Feature in Zoom?

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Can We Please Stop Using the Chat Feature in Zoom?

I’m in a Zoom event, listening to a man in his mid-40s share a personal story and a recent struggle in his family. And 45 seconds later, I’m not listening to him. My chat notification showed 3 new messages, so I clicked to see what I’m missing. Someone has written that they are going through a similar thing…

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