I was too embarrassed to walk into the store

I was too embarrassed to walk into the store

Even as a health educator, buying my first toy felt impossible. At age 20, I became a sexual health peer educator at Lehigh University, about 80 minutes from where I grew up in Pennsylvania. The program was run through the health and counseling center, and we were trained to go into dorms and classes to teach and facilitate conversations about safer sex. I started in the fall of 1993, when the focus was on something called Outercourse…

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Bob the Builder - The New Gen Z Dating Trend

Bob the Builder - The New Gen Z Dating Trend

There is a trend on Hinge and other dating apps that is both new…but also kind of old, in the traditional sense. Forget dinner and drinks and getting dressed up. Some Gen Z women are using Hinge matches to help build their furniture. Bed frames, bookshelves, TVs mounted on the wall, all courtesy of a first date. The New York Post called it the “Bob the Builder” trend, and I was interviewed…

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Sex During Perimenopause & Menopause

Sex During Perimenopause & Menopause

As a 52-year-old woman in the midst of perimenopause (the transitional years leading to menopause, when a woman’s hormones are fluctuating), the topics of sex, intimacy, and desire during perimenopause and menopause are not just professional topics for me, but also deeply personal ones. Along these lines, I was recently interviewed by Oprah Daily as the Resident Sex Educator for pjur lubricants

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How Your Attachment Style Impacts Sex

How Your Attachment Style Impacts Sex

Our attachment styles indicate how secure, anxious, or avoidant we feel around emotional intimacy in our relationships. This aspect of emotional intimacy and trust around closeness and vulnerability can’t help but impact how we experience sexual connection. Some folks at Kourtney Kardashian’s lifestyle magazine Poosh reached out to interview me….

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World Sexual Health Day is Today!

World Sexual Health Day is Today!

Happy World Sexual Health Day! 🎉 This year’s theme, Positive Relationships, is a powerful reminder that sexual health goes beyond just the physical aspect. Sexual health isn't just about avoiding illness but about building healthy relationships based on trust, communication, respect, compassion, and emotional connection...

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Love Land - My Visit to an erotic sculpture park on Jeju Island in Korea

Love Land - My Visit to an erotic sculpture park on Jeju Island in Korea

Two weeks ago, I visited South Korea, and specifically Jeju Island. Jeju Island has been known over the years to Koreans as a “honeymoon island,” with its beaches, old volcanos, and resort areas. I was delighted to discover that there was also a place called Love Land, an erotic sculpture museum!

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