What Beach Volleyball Teaches Me about Love

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What Beach Volleyball Teaches Me about Love

The sand was just warming under my feet last Saturday morning, the ocean breeze cutting across the beach as I walked toward my usual court. I’ve played beach volleyball with the same group (mostly men, a few women) for more than fifteen years. We only play two-on-two (no fours or sixes), and it’s one of my favorite parts of the week. Frustratingly, my skill level changes from week to week, and it took me years to realize that when I focus on just two things—especially when a serve is coming in—everything flows better. Those two things are…

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60 Questions to Strengthen Your Relationship or Marriage

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60 Questions to Strengthen Your Relationship or Marriage

How often do you create intentional time to ask and answer questions like this in your relationship or marriage? (It really only needs to take 5 to 10 minutes!) What's a favorite memory of us that I may not know means a lot to you? What's something I do that makes you feel loved? What helps you feel more emotionally safe with me?

I love using questions like this when…

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Uncomfortable Holiday Conversations with Family & Friends

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Uncomfortable Holiday Conversations with Family & Friends

Do you know how to be with family and friends for the holidays, and also be prepared for uncomfortable or confrontational social or political conversations? I spoke to Houston NBC news recently, giving advice on how best to navigate holiday conversations.

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The RIGHT Buttons to Push in Your Marriage

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The RIGHT Buttons to Push in Your Marriage

I was just in Lyon, France, and one of Lyon’s points of pride is the vital role it played in the resistance movement against the Nazis in WWII. And one of the tools used by the resistance fighters were the Traboules—secret passageways through the winding streets, originally built for the silk workers in the 1500s...

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Sex at the Olympics - Should the athletes have sex?

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Sex at the Olympics - Should the athletes have sex?

The Olympic Village is known for its youthful and celebratory energy, but should that include having sex? A journalist at CBS National News reached out to me to inquire whether sex for the Olympic athletes could be harmful or helpful.

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Kissing - Why, Different Kinds, & How to Kiss Better

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Kissing - Why, Different Kinds, & How to Kiss Better

Kissing is often how we initially assess sexual chemistry with a new person. And kissing is how we can maintain sensuality and intimacy in a long-term relationship. But over the 16 years of my private coaching practice with individuals and couples, so many times I’ve heard from couples that they don’t kiss anymore. Why?

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