What Beach Volleyball Teaches Me about Love

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What Beach Volleyball Teaches Me about Love

The sand was just warming under my feet last Saturday morning, the ocean breeze cutting across the beach as I walked toward my usual court. I’ve played beach volleyball with the same group (mostly men, a few women) for more than fifteen years. We only play two-on-two (no fours or sixes), and it’s one of my favorite parts of the week. Frustratingly, my skill level changes from week to week, and it took me years to realize that when I focus on just two things—especially when a serve is coming in—everything flows better. Those two things are…

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I was too embarrassed to walk into the store

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I was too embarrassed to walk into the store

Even as a health educator, buying my first toy felt impossible. At age 20, I became a sexual health peer educator at Lehigh University, about 80 minutes from where I grew up in Pennsylvania. The program was run through the health and counseling center, and we were trained to go into dorms and classes to teach and facilitate conversations about safer sex. I started in the fall of 1993, when the focus was on something called Outercourse…

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New to Online Dating? My tips for San Diego Magazine...

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New to Online Dating? My tips for San Diego Magazine...

I have talked to many folks over the years who have left a long-term relationship or marriage and are trying online dating for the first time. With the stress and changes in our lives due to the pandemic, it’s likely we’re going to see a noticeable uptick in divorces in the next year or so. I was interviewed for the February issue of San Diego Magazine…

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What do single people most want in dating in 2021? A Match.com study reveals

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What do single people most want in dating in 2021? A Match.com study reveals

More than 1/3 of adults in the United States are single. What impact did the pandemic have on what single people are most looking for? And specifically, what factor do you think was stated to be the most desirable in a romantic partner? Good sex? Because there was so much less physical contact and fewer sexual encounters during the pandemic?

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Pausing to Look Closely - Mindful Connections in the Digital Era

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Pausing to Look Closely - Mindful Connections in the Digital Era

I’m thrilled to have had the opportunity to collaborate with artists Marta Gorski and Alana Biffert who won an open call to exhibit their “CROMMAEA” work through the Pilchuck Glass School in Seattle. Their work is about body image, objectification, and female sexuality in our digital era, presented through a lens of vulnerability and mindfulness to challenge the viewer to pause and reflect….

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Old MacDonald Had a SEXY Farm!

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Old MacDonald Had a SEXY Farm!

Oh, I had a lot of fun writing the lyrics to Old MacDonald Had a Sexy Farm and rehearsing it the past few months! And as you’ll see, I had trouble not laughing while I recorded this! If Old MacDonald had a sexy, sex-positive (and maybe even kinky) farm, what kinds of things might he have on his farm?!

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