Public Talk on Outsourcing Intimacy: The Cost of Connection without Courage

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Public Talk on Outsourcing Intimacy: The Cost of Connection without Courage

For over 30 years, I’ve been studying the shifting ways we meaningfully connect with others, or try to, through the internet and technology. And on Thursday, May 14, in San Diego, I’ll be giving a public talk about how intimacy, and our ability to cultivate emotional and physical closeness with others, is being increasingly impacted by technology. Especially with the rise of human-like AI interactions.

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Bob the Builder - The New Gen Z Dating Trend

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Bob the Builder - The New Gen Z Dating Trend

There is a trend on Hinge and other dating apps that is both new…but also kind of old, in the traditional sense. Forget dinner and drinks and getting dressed up. Some Gen Z women are using Hinge matches to help build their furniture. Bed frames, bookshelves, TVs mounted on the wall, all courtesy of a first date. The New York Post called it the “Bob the Builder” trend, and I was interviewed…

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Sex at the Olympics - Should the athletes have sex?

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Sex at the Olympics - Should the athletes have sex?

The Olympic Village is known for its youthful and celebratory energy, but should that include having sex? A journalist at CBS National News reached out to me to inquire whether sex for the Olympic athletes could be harmful or helpful.

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Kissing - Why, Different Kinds, & How to Kiss Better

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Kissing - Why, Different Kinds, & How to Kiss Better

Kissing is often how we initially assess sexual chemistry with a new person. And kissing is how we can maintain sensuality and intimacy in a long-term relationship. But over the 16 years of my private coaching practice with individuals and couples, so many times I’ve heard from couples that they don’t kiss anymore. Why?

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Boyfriend? Girlfriend? I asked ChatGPT-4 for better words

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Boyfriend? Girlfriend? I asked ChatGPT-4 for better words

I've long wished we had better terminology than "boyfriend" and "girlfriend" for adults who are not married but are in serious long-term relationships. So a male friend and I recently interrogated ChatGPT-4 to brainstorm new ideas. What's your favorite? I'll share our favorites at the end. 😂

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Gen Z is Sex-Positive but Relationship-Negative?

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Gen Z is Sex-Positive but Relationship-Negative?

More than any prior generation, Generation Z seems to embrace sex positivity — that is, embracing sexual variety and various relationship forms. As long as the people involved are adults and consenting, Gen Z is less likely to judge their choices and actions. But while Gen Z seems to be more sex-positive and open-minded, they seem to be more relationship-negative…

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