The Contribution of Listening…It’s Not Doing “Nothing”

The Contribution of Listening…It’s Not Doing “Nothing”

“Hi, Jenn,” the front desk volunteer said as I answered the phone. “I wasn’t sure who to call…a young man just walked into The Center and he said he just tested positive for HIV. He wanted to talk to someone and I guided him into the library to wait. Could you come down and talk to him?” Shit….

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Pain During Sex - The Pain Perception Project For Women

Pain During Sex - The Pain Perception Project For Women

“It hurts when we have sex.” When a woman in my intimacy coaching private practice shares this with me, I know it can mean many things. A while ago in a nationally-representative sex research study, one-third of the women indicated that they had recently experienced pain in a sexual encounter…

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(Trying to) Feel Sexy Again at 48 - New Personal Podcast

(Trying to) Feel Sexy Again at 48 - New Personal Podcast

I am a sociologist and sex expert. And last August, as a single woman at age 48, I realized I had lost my mojo. So I challenged myself to try to find my sexiness again (or reinvent it?!). I recorded my thoughts and happenings over a 7-day time period…and turned it into this vulnerable, raw, and humorous story-telling podcast

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What do people most love about their sexual expression?

What do people most love about their sexual expression?

Last year I conducted an online “Sex & Vulnerability” survey, and 269 respondents anonymously shared their fears, insecurities, and shame around their bodies, sexual experiences, and emotions. But I also wanted to know what they celebrate around their sexuality. So the final question was: What do you appreciate or love about your sexuality, sexual functioning, or sexual expression? I found 6 major themes…

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New to Online Dating? My tips for San Diego Magazine...

New to Online Dating? My tips for San Diego Magazine...

I have talked to many folks over the years who have left a long-term relationship or marriage and are trying online dating for the first time. With the stress and changes in our lives due to the pandemic, it’s likely we’re going to see a noticeable uptick in divorces in the next year or so. I was interviewed for the February issue of San Diego Magazine…

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Using blindfolds during sex? Ask Dr. Jenn

Using blindfolds during sex? Ask Dr. Jenn

Q: Why/how is her/him wearing a blindfold different from me wearing a blindfold? A: A: For the person who is wearing a blindfold, they are surrendering some power and control to their partner. While this can feel scary, it can also feel very arousing because they can’t see what is happening or what is coming next….

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