Why We Need Touch

We are wired to need touch to thrive. Our skin is actually our largest organ and our receptors allow us to identify objects AND to emotionally connect with others. Have you ever given yourself a foot massage and noticed that it doesn't feel as good as when someone else does it? This is because when someone else touches us, it makes us feel reassured and connected. (And also because the unpredictable nature of being touched by another is more pleasurable.) There are chemical changes in the brain that make us feel good from touch, including the big feel-good players like dopamine, endorphins, and oxytocin. Being touched has been shown to reduce stress, improve immune functioning, and calm agitation.

With all these proven positive physical and emotional benefits of touch, it behooves us to be more touchy-feely (where appropriate, of course!) If you and your partner haven't touched in a while, create a calm evening of gentle hand and foot massages. Visit a massage therapist for a professional healing session. Even between friends you can sit in a circle and take turns massaging a part of someone else's body. Be conscious of how you can bring more comforting caresses into your daily interactions.

Jennifer Gunsaullus, Ph.D.

Sex Therapy & Relationship Counseling in San Diego

Belly Massage for Relaxation & Sexual Release

How can massage assist in sex, sexual release, and fertility? Special guest Genevieve Siegel, licensed massage therapist and holistic health practitioner, drops by the Den to share her expertise and experiences with Mayan abdominal massage.

Genevieve Siegel, HHP

• Love and nurture yourself
• Express yourself
• Don't drink while you eat

Sensual Message about Sensual Massage

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Dr. Jenn talks with massage therapist, Brenda Goodell, about sensual massage and how touch can help improve sexual intimacy and diffuse sexual tension.

Brenda Goodell, Holistic Health Practitioner

Explore your partner's body as if you were alien to this world.