Sex During Perimenopause & Menopause

Sex During Perimenopause & Menopause

As a 52-year-old woman in the midst of perimenopause (the transitional years leading to menopause, when a woman’s hormones are fluctuating), the topics of sex, intimacy, and desire during perimenopause and menopause are not just professional topics for me, but also deeply personal ones. Along these lines, I was recently interviewed by Oprah Daily as the Resident Sex Educator for pjur lubricants

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5 Tips to Cultivate More Sexual Desire

5 Tips to Cultivate More Sexual Desire

Why does desire often fade in long-term relationships? What gets in the way of feeling sexual desire towards your partner in a long-term relationship or marriage (even when you still find them attractive)? And what are tips to cultivate more sexual desire? I sat down (over Zoom) with Sarah Regan at mindbodygreen to talk through all of these questions and get into the nitty gritty of sexual desire….

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Pain During Sex - The Pain Perception Project For Women

Pain During Sex - The Pain Perception Project For Women

“It hurts when we have sex.” When a woman in my intimacy coaching private practice shares this with me, I know it can mean many things. A while ago in a nationally-representative sex research study, one-third of the women indicated that they had recently experienced pain in a sexual encounter…

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Sexual Role Play – Two Suggestions for Overcoming Difficulties

Sexual Role Play – Two Suggestions for Overcoming Difficulties

“We want to try role-playing to spice up our sex life, but I think I’ll just laugh the whole time and feel silly.” “We’ve tried sexual role-playing but my partner kept getting caught up in the details and getting distracted.” Sexual role-playing is a way to bring a new energy of creativity and spontaneity to your sex life. You give yourself and your partner permission to try on a new skin and “be” someone else…

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What do people most love about their sexual expression?

What do people most love about their sexual expression?

Last year I conducted an online “Sex & Vulnerability” survey, and 269 respondents anonymously shared their fears, insecurities, and shame around their bodies, sexual experiences, and emotions. But I also wanted to know what they celebrate around their sexuality. So the final question was: What do you appreciate or love about your sexuality, sexual functioning, or sexual expression? I found 6 major themes…

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