Happy Naked Fun Time! Getting back to being physical...

Happy Naked Fun Time! Getting back to being physical...

Are you still enjoying sex? Do you have happy naked fun time with your partner, or does it feel like tedious naked boring time? Alas, you are not alone. One of the biggest surprises to couples in long-term relationships is that the passion and drive at the early stages often wears off over time....

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Wife Suing Ex-Husband for Sexless Marriage? WTF?!

Here's the story: A man and woman in France were married for 21 years and divorced two years ago based on her complaint of no sex in their marriage. OK, that makes sense. But then the ex-wife came back and sued her ex-husband for this lack of sex in their marriage. And the judge ordered that the man pay his ex-wife approximately $14,000 for this breach of their marital contract. WTF?

This infuriates me on so many levels:

That the ex-wife would sue her husband for this reason.

That anyone thinks it is their business how much sex a couple is having.

That a judge entertained and granted such a charge.

That a slippery slope of bullshit precedent is potentially being set in the legal system.

I would like to know when it became alright to litigate how often a married couple should have sex? There may be a lot of things that married couples don't like about each other, or aren't ideal in their relationship, and many options from counseling, to workshops, new communication, praying, personal growth, shifting priorities or expectations, help from friends, to leaving. Even if the husband was unwilling to discuss or address this topic, it still does not necessitate the involvement of the legal system.

I can think of all sorts of ways that people are unhappy sexually in their marriages. Will we be able to sue if our spouse doesn't go down on us the way we like?  The list exhausts me.

This gets a big Dr. Jenn "Stamp of Disapproval"!

(The photo is my disgusted WTF expression :)

~Dr. Jenn Gunsaullus -- Sex Therapist, Marriage Counselor, & University Sexuality Speaker -- San Diego, CA