Dr. Jenn Gunsaullus, sociologist and sexologist, writes her sex advice and gender commentary blog. The sex blog includes relationship advice, free sex education videos, sex tips, sex-positive mindfulness, and podcast interviews.
In this Christmas episode of "In the Den with Dr. Jenn," Coach Karpo (Eric Karpinski) drops by to talk about the importance of optimism and being happy for better sex and relationships!
SPONSOR:
Coach Karpo
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THE DEN RECOMMEND
"Positivity" by Barbara Fredrickson
Date: Tuesday, Sept. 28, 2010
Time: 7pm - 9pm
Place: Sorrento Valley
Price: $29 (please reserve space in advance)
This is a two-hour workshop for women. It is not unusual for couples to have a healthy, happy, and communicative relationship, where the sexual zest has disappeared. We will explore many "big picture" reasons why sexual desire has subsided and offer a variety of ideas to put immediately into action and boost vitality.
Topics to be addressed include:
Stress/anxiety
Resentments
Children
Body-image
Communicating needs
Self-knowledge
Priorities
Boredom
Hormones
And more...
There are many small steps that can be taken to address these concern and create a new sense of passion and hope in your sexual life.
Click here for paypal link to reserve your space:
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If you've experienced how verbose I am about any sexual or relationship topic, you won't be surprised to hear me respond NO to the above query. However, there are two basic questions you can ask yourself to start digging at the foundation of a lackluster sex life:
When I write "mean," I'm referring to the compelling emotions surrounding these questions. For example, one woman I presented the first question to exploded, "What does it mean? It means I'm just taking care of my husband like I have to take care of the house, the kids, and my clients at work." Yikes. Lots of underlying resentments. Generally resentments represent needs that aren't being met. In this case, she was not feeling nurtured and cared for, and feeling overwhelmed with emotionally managing so many others.
In another case, I asked a male client in a "sexless" marriage what not having sex meant to him. He sadly replied that he was unable to have a level of closeness and intimacy he craved, intimacy that made him feel good about himself and connected to his wife. Having sex with his wife validated his self worth as a man and a loving husband.
When sex is "missing" in a relationship, just trying to spice up the excitement level rarely addresses the depth of the hurt, resentments, and walls that have built up. Gently pulling back the layers of hurt and disconnect and replacing them with appreciation and vulnerability (with a kick of creativity) is the best "quick fix" I can recommend.
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I will be conducting a set of 3 workshops at Tango Wine for the Women & Intimacy Series! For 3 months in a row, starting in July, women will be gathering for these fun, interactive, and lively events.
GOT PASSION?
~Lecture I of Tango Wine's Women & Intimacy Series~
Maintain or improve your passionate spark with sensuality, juiciness, and mindfulness!
Date: Wednesday, July 22
To find out more, click on this Calendar Link.
KEYS TO HAPPY RELATIONSHIPS
~Lecture II of Tango Wine's Women & Intimacy Series~
Gain insights and skills to immediately improve communication and appreciation.
Date: Wednesday, August 19
To find out more, click on this Calendar Link.
INTIMACY & PLAY
~Lecture III of Tango Wine's Women & Intimacy Series~
Kick start your bedroom creativity with fun and erotic play tips.
Date: Wednesday, September 23
To find out more, click on this Calendar Link.
Contact Dr. Jenn with questions or to reserve a space for any or all of the workshops!
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Dr. Jenn is a sociologist and relationship & sexuality speaker who challenges our cultural beliefs around sex, sexual consent, gender roles, and health intimacy, with a mindfulness and compassionate approach. Her site includes a sex blog, free sex education videos, sexuality speaking information, and mindfulness resources.
