Act Happy Week! Should you fake it until you make it?

Is faking it until you make it a good idea regarding your happiness? Actually yes - it's not just an irritating Polyannna approach. Sometimes it is helpful and powerful to put a smile on your face and consciously switch to thinking positively, as a way of transforming your outlook. This can then cascade into greater creativity, health, and relationships.

Rachel Curtis, a journalist in Chicago, writes about "Act Happy Week" and interviewed me about these topics in positive psychology. Read article here.

Jennifer Gunsaullus, Ph.D.

Sex Therapy & Relationship Counseling in San Diego~

Should you "just be positive" through negative emotions?

Do you allow yourself to "be with" negative emotions, or do you put on a strong front and plow through them? Dr. Jenn was interviewed by a Chicago journalist about this topic, as we head into spring.

Read the article by journalist Rachel Curtis at the Examiner.

Jennifer Gunsaullus, Ph.D.

Sex Therapy & Relationship Counseling in San Diego

More Happiness = Better Sex?

In this Christmas episode of "In the Den with Dr. Jenn," Coach Karpo (Eric Karpinski) drops by to talk about the importance of optimism and being happy for better sex and relationships!

Coach Karpo

"Positivity" by Barbara Fredrickson

Focus on What's Working

Complain. Bitch. Moan.

It’s easy to do this when we’ve been in a relationship for a while. We may take the positive things for granted and just expect them to be there. We are programed as animals to notice what is not working because this keeps our focus on survival. But how many of us just want to be surviving our relationships?

It feels a lot better to be focused on thriving. And when we focus on what’s working, it also gives us hope.

Try focusing on what is working instead of what is not working. This strengths-based approach lets you see what you’re already good at and realize that there is a lot of foundation to build on. Do an activity with your partner where you both choose several strengths (a minimum of three) that you have in life and/or in your relationship. Such strengths could include clear communicator, humor, honesty, creativity, or perseverance. Now think about how you can each expand your strengths to other areas that you may be struggling in. Often what works well in some areas will work well in others, if you can creatively expand it. Also, being positive instead of negative has been found in research to expand our capacity for inventive solutions. This is a powerful tool to break through feeling stuck in your relationship and move to thriving.

Jennifer Gunsaullus, Ph.D.

Sex Therapy & Relationship Counseling in San Diego