Urban Tantra - Great read

Urban Tantra, by Barbara Carrellas, is a wonderful journey through sacred sexuality for those of us living in America in the 21st century. Tantra is an ancient practice of spiritual sexuality and bliss, that can often feel daunting in our face-paced society. Carrellas brings compassion and open-mindedness to this educational and inspiring exploration of bringing greater depth, connection, and pleasure to sexual experiences. From cultural critique to sketch drawings of technique, she covers her bases in creating a fascinting and safe journey to greater self-knowledge and pleasure. I particularly appreciated the author's easy-to-read style and personal stories sprinkled throughout.  Whether you read the entire book from front to back, or flip through to chapters that grab your interest, I think it's a worthy read to broaden sexual horizons.

Tantric Sex for Women's Healing and Pleasure

Dr. Jenn talks with Kamala Devi, a tantra, sex, and relationship coach, about sexual healing and modern day tantra. How can tantric sex assist in healing sexual wounds?

Kamala Devi, Tantra Teacher

Mating in Captivity, by Esther Perel

Spirituality & Sexuality - Why Such a Split?

Monday evening's Coed Coffee Chat was about "Do Spirituality & Sexuality Go Together? How?" Twenty-two women and men sat outside at a local coffee shop and first hashed out the basics, such as:

  • What does spirituality mean?
  • Why is there often such a split between spirituality and sexuality?
  • Does that have to do with our definitions and understandings of "sexuality"?

And then the discussion delved into a a breadth of issues that group members found relevant, such as:

  • Non-monogamy and how this challenges some people's understanding of a spiritual and sexual union.
  • The power of sexual energy and how this is controlled by religions, cultures, etc.
  • The need to objectify women for a man to be able to orgasm.
  • Whether sexual activity early in a relationship can interfere with spiritual bonding or truly knowing someone.
  • Whether we are all spiritual beings having a human/physical experience.

A particularly poignant observation was about how we learn at a young age that it is not OK to be human. We're not allowed to be human. We are embarrassed to be human. We are ashamed to be human. I think when we take this perspective towards understanding our experiences of pleasure, it makes a lot of sense. In terms of the split many of us experience between spirituality and sexuality, this may be because we learned that the mind should be elevated over the body, and spirituality is something to aspire to by forsaking bodily pleasures. Enjoying our bodies is wrong, because we should be embarrassed by what makes us like other animals (e.g., defecation, sex, bodily secretions).

I like the concept that we are all spiritual beings having human experiences. I think that is an empowering shift in perspective to bring us into an appreciation of our bodies, pleasure, and intimacy as it is all part of our spiritual journey.

๏ปฟJennifer Gunsaullus, PhD

Sex Therapy & Relationship Counseling in San Diego

Sacred Feminine & Empowering Travel for Women

What is the sacred feminine? Dr Jenn talks with Karen Tate about empowering travel for women and how it is connected to the "sacred feminine."

Karen Tate, Sacred Feminine Author & Speaker

The Adventures of Dick & Virginia

Sacred Dancing - Goddess Belly Dancing

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Part 2:

The Den is converted into a Goddess Studio, as Dr. Jenn interviews Amalya Peck, Goddess Extraordinaire, about the power of sacred dance for women and honoring your body as temple. Amalya performs a beautiful veil dance to a soulful drum beat.

Amalya Peck
and Lisa Bonneau on drum

When the Drummers Were Women: A Spiritual History of Rhythm, by Layne Redmond

Kama Sutra for Good Loving

Dr. Jenn talks with Spicy Suzy, the Den Sexpert, about the sacred nature of sexuality that comes from the Kama Sutra and how it can be an integral part of the human experience. It's more than just crazy positions!

The Complete Kama Sutra, by Alain Danielou