Dr. Jenn Gunsaullus, sociologist and sexologist, writes her sex advice and gender commentary blog. The sex blog includes relationship advice, free sex education videos, sex tips, sex-positive mindfulness, and podcast interviews.
In this session of "In the Den With Dr. Jenn," Passion Consultant Sara Mead stops by to show off some new and very popular sex toys. What's "The Meat Hook" as a sexual position??
GUEST
Sara Mead, Passion Parties Consultant
SEXUAL FUN FACT
What is the best thing to do with old sex toys?
SEX POSITION OF THE DAY
The Meat Hook
I know I'm not a man, and I don’t have a prostate gland, but if I did, I think I’d want to try the Aneros! It is the “Male G-Spot Stimulator” that has been medically researched and designed. To quote the creators of the Aneros: “Its proven efficacious hands-free self-pivoting mechanism simultaneously massages the Male G-Spot and the perineum culminating in an intensely heightened experience of orgasm.” Many men state that orgasms through prostate stimulation are by far the best orgasms of their lives. The prostate is about three inches inside a man’s rectum. Once the man is relaxed and has well-lubricated the Aneros, the product is then inserted, and just through contracting his PC-sphincter muscles, it gently strokes the prostate (internally) and the perineum (externally). It’s that simple. Look ma, no hands!
In this episode of "In the Den With Dr. Jenn," Jennifer Gunsaullus, PhD, puts on her sociology hat with her relationship counselor hat, and asks you to consider the motivations behind hook-ups.
SEXUAL FUN FACT
How are Germans, vodka, and tampons all connected?
Special Den SEX-TION
What's in a sex therapist's email box?
In this episode of "In the Den With Dr. Jenn," the Fertility Goddess Donna McIntosh, MHN, CHFS, stops by to talk about fertility, infertility, nutrition, and sexuality. How does diet impact fertility for women?
GUEST
Donna McIntosh, MHN, CHFS
SEXUAL FUN FACT
True or False: Caffeine negatively impacts a man's fertility?
DEN RECOMMEND
Infertility Journeys by Lesley Vance
In this episode of "In the Den With Dr. Jenn," yoga instructor Kirsten Selway stops by the Den to discuss the benefits of yoga for a better sex life.
GUEST
Kirsten Selway of Birdrock Yoga
SEXUAL FUN FACT
Where are women injecting silicone, to make themselves look sexier to others?
POSITION OF THE DAY
Firing the Human Cannonball
DEN RECOMMEND
Slim Calm Sexy Yoga by Tara Stiles
I can handle your telling me
what I did or didn't do.
And I can handle your interpretations
but please don't mix the two.
If you want to confuse any issue,
I can tell you how to do it:
Mix together what I do
with how you react to it.
Tell me that you're disappointed
with the unfinished chores you see,
But calling me "irresponsible"
is no way to motivate me.
And tell me that you're feeling hurt
when I say "no" to your advances,
But calling me a frigid man
won't increase your future chances.
Yes, I can handle your telling me
what I did or didn't do,
And I can handle your interpretations,
but please don't mix the two."
~Marshall Rosenberg, Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life
Even with our best intentions when communicating in an intimate relationship, we often speak or listen from judgement and conflict. Social psychological research shows us that people do not like to feel attacked or blamed. They get defensive. They might lash back. And then we lash back. This can create a cycle of anger, self-righteousness, and irrationality. Marshall Rosenerg's quote above speaks to the value in separating observation from interpretation. This is a powerful first step to start breaking unhelpful cycles in a relationship.
When broaching a painful or upsetting topic, first state the facts you observed, without any other meaning attached. Be careful not to use any "loaded" language, but just state the objective facts. Then state how you interpreted it (i.e., what it meant to you) and how you felt about it. Although we often conflate observation and interpretation, they are quite separate entities. Making this separation allows you to own your emotions and reactions, without making them "facts" about what occurred. This gives your partner the space to hear you, with less chance of defensiveness.
Sex Therapy & Relationship Counseling
~Healthy Sexuality & Happy Relationships in San Diego~
www.drjennsden.com
Follow me on Twitter
"Like" me on Facebook
Dr. Jenn is a sociologist and relationship & sexuality speaker who challenges our cultural beliefs around sex, sexual consent, gender roles, and health intimacy, with a mindfulness and compassionate approach. Her site includes a sex blog, free sex education videos, sexuality speaking information, and mindfulness resources.
