When Consent Isn’t Enough: From my mother’s bedside to Epstein’s world, what consent misses about power

When Consent Isn’t Enough: From my mother’s bedside to Epstein’s world, what consent misses about power

I’ve been thinking about consent a lot this year, but in some new ways. In my work, I’ve long pushed back on simplified ideas like “No means no” and “Yes means yes” and tried to bring in the complexity of real human interaction. But what I didn’t expect was that caring for my dying mother would clarify what felt so wrong about Jeffrey Epstein’s world. Consent is not just about permission, but about how power is used when someone is vulnerable.

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Denim Day 2017 in San Diego, for sexual assault prevention & education

Denim Day 2017 in San Diego, for sexual assault prevention & education

What is Denim Day? This day happens around the world in April, which is Sexual Assault Awareness Month. Denim Day is based on the findings of a judge in Italy in 1992 who overturned the conviction of a driver instructor (who raped his much younger driving student)...

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Mormon Sex...and Consent

Mormon Sex...and Consent

Mormon sex! A topic that's not often discussed publicly, but I was happy to be interviewed for a 2nd time by a Mormon Sex Therapist. We discussed my sexual consent video, and in her words: "Dr. Gunsaullus offers us a rare and vulnerable look into the complexities of consent. Not the type of consent that is obvious (i.e. don't rape a woman when she is unconscious or inebriated), but..."

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Sexy Halloween Costumes: The Good, Bad, & Ugly

Sexy Halloween Costumes: The Good, Bad, & Ugly

Sigh, yes, it's that time of year again when almost anything you can think of is turned into a "sexy" version for the sale of Halloween costumes. Sexy Donald Trump? Sexy Hillary? Sexy Ronald McDonald, Ebola nurse, Smiling Pile of Poo! (I'm serious.) I discussed Sexy Halloween Costumes on San Diego Living....

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