Actually, consent is complicated

Actually, consent is complicated

“I’m going to kiss you now,” Tom says as he moves in to embrace the flustered Amber, a fellow first year student at Princeton University. This is one of the opening lines in Actually, a two-person play by Anna Ziegler at the San Diego Repertory Theatre.

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What I Want to Hear from You, Brett Kavanaugh

What I Want to Hear from You, Brett Kavanaugh

I’ve heard denial and a lot of deflection. I’ve heard anger and sadness. And I’ve heard disrespect. I know you needed to show that you are tough and a strong man. You needed to show who is in charge through your dominance and anger and righteous indignation. What I haven’t heard from you, Judge Kavanaugh…

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My Ex-Boyfriend Just Apologized Because of Aziz Ansari

My Ex-Boyfriend Just Apologized Because of Aziz Ansari

Within hours of each other, several male friends privately contacted me. They sent the Babe article of the detailed account by a woman named “Grace” of comedian Aziz Ansari’s sexual behavior on a first date. Was this just a “date gone bad” or was this actually a harmful #metoo experience?

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Dear Men in Power: I Know You're Scared.

Dear Men in Power: I Know You're Scared.

Dear Men in Power, I know you’re scared. Maybe you haven’t slept well in the past two months since the #MeToo movement took its stride. Perhaps you lie awake at night thinking back to those times you might have crossed a line with a female employee...

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Men and #MeToo — What Some Men May Not Understand About Women

Men and #MeToo — What Some Men May Not Understand About Women

A close female friend recently sent this text message to me: “I’m having a lot of trouble with some men who are terrible to women in their private lives, now being loud objectors to what’s happening in news around sexual harassment and assault (and the #MeToo movement). It’s hard not to be cynical....

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