Totally normal thoughts to have before sex

I was interviewed by writer Theresa Holland for this article in Elite Daily, an online publication for millennial women:

“Sex can be a lot of fun, but can also sometimes be awkward, embarrassing, and nerve-wracking. Before doing the deed, your mind might start to wander. But don't worry — you're not crazy. It's really common to have all types of fleeting thoughts before getting it on. I spoke with a few experts about this phenomenon, and have some very good news for you. Your internal ramblings are probably totally normal thoughts to have before sex.

If certain thoughts start to run through your brain before getting naked with bae, and then you begin to overthink the fact that you're overthinking, you're not alone. According to Dr. Shannon Chavez, licensed psychologist and certified sex therapist, it's normal for people to focus on "appearance, environment, and performance before sex. It’s more common than not due to expectations and goals around sex." So, if you're a pre-sex over-thinker, you're in good company.

Do you find yourself panicking about how your body looks without clothes on, what your partner will think about your skills, or if you'll be able to have an orgasm? While these thoughts are pretty standard, try not to sweat it, and remember that you're not a weirdo for thinking them. Jennifer Gunsaullus, PhD, a San Diego sociologist and sex speaker tells Elite Daily that "sex is a vulnerable act in so many ways, from being naked to the noises our bodies make, and sharing a side of you that not many people see ... being nervous is quite normal!"

The following five thoughts are totally normal to have before a romp in the sack, so don't panic.”

Read this entire article about common fearful thoughts for women to have before sex.

~Dr. Jenn Gunsaullus, San Diego Sexologist, Sex Speaker, & Sociologist