How Can You Tell if Your Partner is Cheating?

A family law attorney agreed with my suggestions about how you can tell if your partner is cheating. We didn't overlap in our approaches to much else when it comes to infidelity, because let's face it, by the time you're scheduling with a lawyer, you may be past the point of counseling. Potential signs of cheating include sudden changes in behavior, spending extra time on the computer or texing, hiding one's phone or turning away from partner while on phone, or suddenly having passwords on phones or computers. Certainly there are other potential signs, but these are the ones that are most recent in the last 5 years or so with the increase in contact available through technology.

Watch the entire "Legally Speaking" episode on the topic of Cheating Spouses & Infidelity where lawyers Tina Willis and Stephan Futeral inteview Christopher Pearsall and myself. It's interesting to hear the law perspective on this topic (e.g., tracking devices on cars)!

~Dr. Jenn Gunsaullus -- San Diego Sexologist, Sexuality Speaker, Sociologist

Getting Your Sexual Mojo Back

My first time live in a radio station! These radio hosts were awesome to talk to about mojo, sex, relationships, communication, and my experiences. My piece starts around 1:06:40.

HAPPY Hour San Diego 04.24.2014 Singer Song Writer Steph Johnson, Sexual Expert Dr. Jenn Gunsallus by Rich Singley on Mixcloud

~Dr. Jenn Gunsaullus -- San Diego, CA, Sexologist, Sociologist, Sexuality Speaker

Help with Sexual Communication

Sexual communication can be difficult, awkward, and scary.

I was recently interviewed on the podcast show "Full Speech Ahead!" on how to get what you want in your sex life through better communication. The host, Milo Shapiro, is a long time speaker, a public speaking coach, and has an improv background, which really made it a fun interview. You can catch the posted version of this interesting, valuable interview on the "Podcast Page" on www.FullSpeechAhead.com. 

~Dr. Jenn Gunsaullus, San Diego Sexologist, Sociologist, & Sexuality Speaker

Night Owl Women Have More Sex

Dr. Jenn & Marc Bailey, San Diego News Anchor Channel 6These research findings aren't that surprising: Women and men who stay up later have more sex. What is interesting is that the women were found to be higher risk-takers overall, as well as have higher cortisol levels. And these night owl women were less likely to be in long-term relationships, compared to women who prefer to get to bed earlier. I am far from an evolutionary biologist, but I discuss the findings and implications of a recent Univeristy of Chicago research study on Channel 6's San Diego Living this morning.

~Dr. Jenn Gunsaullus, San Diego Sexologist, Sociologist, Sexuality Speaker

Romances in the Workplace: Pros & Cons on Wake Up San Diego, Channel 6

There are A LOT of workplace romances. But is it a smart thing to do? I discuss some things to look out for around workplace romances on Wake Up San Diego, Channel 6.

Dr. Jennifer Gunsaullus, PhD -- San Diego Sexologist, Sexuality Speeaker, Sociologist

A Hot Date with My Vagina

This is not actually about MY vagina (sorry to disappoint ;), but that of a courageous reporter for the San Diego CityBeat magazine. Alex Zaragoza interviewed me this month about women's pleasure, masturbation, sensuality, mindfulness, and empowerment. She listened to my free 10-minute guided "Meditative Masturbation" audio file, and then set up a sexy date night for her personal sexual pleasure. My favorite line from her article? "Take my vagina out; treat her all nice; wine her, dine her, vibrator-time her."

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Sex—it's great, right? I want it all the time. It's basically a vitamin that I really want to take daily because I know it will make me feel good. Unfortunately, like my actual vitamins, I'll go days, or sometimes even weeks, without getting my Vitamin D(ick), leaving me with a severe lack of bone density. Long workdays, general fatigue and laptops in bed seem to be the boner killers in my life these days. Laptop in bed, libido = dead.

As a result, I've taken matters into my own hands. I masturbate often. We should never feel embarrassed or ashamed about masturbating. Shame only strengthens fears instilled by prudish, women-hating jerks.

That said, I don't treat masturbating like something special, nor do many of the heterosexual women I asked. It's more of an I need to get laid but my boyfriend / husband / sex idiot is woefully tired / working / in the drunk tank. I guess I'll just knock one off the wrist before making dinner. 

When it comes to sex, women tend to want some level of romance or excitement. We make a date special by dressing up, setting the mood with boot-knocking jams, wearing perfume and all that other good stuff that incites a bone session. However, when it comes to sex with ourselves, we often just go for the quick-and-easy fix in between the millions of things we seem to have going on at any given time.

I'll admit that my masturbation sessions usually involve lying in bed in a slovenly fashion with Parks & Recreation paused on the TV. It's not the sexiest thing in the world. But lighting candles and dimming the lights to rub one out seems cheesy.

Dr. Jenn Gunsaullus believes otherwise. The sex therapist says women should treat masturbation as they would sex with anyone. I visited Dr. Jenn's den, her Pacific Beach home, where she also sees clients, to talk about meditative masturbation. With a friendly, open expression, Dr. Jenn told me things I've always known: Masturbation not only feels amazing; it's also a way to understand and love your body. You gain insight into your sexuality and sensuality, and, over time, the sex you have improves. However, knowing those things doesn't mean you make the experience intimate, as is the case with my lazy ass.

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Read the entire article "A Hot Date with My Vagina" by Alex Zaragoza at San Diego CityBeat.

~Dr. Jenn Gunsaullus, San Diego Sexologist, Sociologist, Sexuality Speaker