(Trying to) Feel Sexy Again at 48 - New Personal Podcast

(Trying to) Feel Sexy Again at 48 - New Personal Podcast

I am a sociologist and sex expert. And last August, as a single woman at age 48, I realized I had lost my mojo. So I challenged myself to try to find my sexiness again (or reinvent it?!). I recorded my thoughts and happenings over a 7-day time period…and turned it into this vulnerable, raw, and humorous story-telling podcast

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How to Be the Most Interesting Person in the Room – It’s NOT What You May Think

How to Be the Most Interesting Person in the Room – It’s NOT What You May Think

The Four Types of Question-Askers — Which Type are YOU? I learned a valuable lesson years ago at a beach bonfire party for my work. My boyfriend at the time came with me, and on the ride to the event we talked about Dale Carnegie’s book, How to Win Friends and Influence People. He decided to try out one of the primary suggestions from the book…

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What Sports Have Meant to Me - 50 Years of Title IX for Women's Sports

What Sports Have Meant to Me - 50 Years of Title IX for Women's Sports

On Friday evening I attended my first ever professional women's soccer game -- the new San Diego Wave FC team was taking on the Racing Louisville FC. And they were celebrating 50 years since Title IX was passed. If you're not familiar…

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What is the “Cheez-It” Threshold in Your Relationship?

What is the “Cheez-It” Threshold in Your Relationship?

I’m generally a healthy eater. I’m a vegetarian, I ask for the side salad instead of fries, the fruit instead of the breakfast potatoes. But sometimes I don’t. I’ll order the fries and the potatoes and then dessert too, if I’m out celebrating something with a friend or family member (and I love finding reasons to celebrate). And sometimes I don’t realize that I’ve been using my “I deserve this, I’ve been working hard,” excuse…

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What if you "Compassion It" as often as you "Google It"?

What if you "Compassion It" as often as you "Google It"?

I’m lucky enough to be friends and colleagues with Sara Schairer, the founder of a nonprofit called Compassion It. We live close enough to each other in the beach towns of San Diego that I can ride my bike to brunches, wine evenings, and brainstorming work meetings with her. She recently gave a TEDx Talk…

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What if Men’s Sexual Empathy Was the Default Instead of Our Moral Judgment of Women?

What if Men’s Sexual Empathy Was the Default Instead of Our Moral Judgment of Women?

I was recently listening to one of my favorite podcasts — This American Life — where they interviewed the original researcher who studied the incidence of sexual aggression on college campuses in the 1970s and 1980s. Mary Koss, PhD, was the first to study this topic through the lens of detailed behavioral questions. For example, when asking, “Have you been raped?”…

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